Feminists often chatter about ‘Patriarchy’ as if it is an indisputable fact of life. Rarely do they acknowledge anything to the contrary. It can be time-consuming and difficult to put together a factual, adequately sourced, eloquent argument, especially since it’s so blatantly obvious to anyone with common sense, and your arguments will likely be cherry picked, ignored, or blocked. So this article is essentially a handy guide to disproving patriarchy, very quickly.
Patriarchy is defined as a system in which all of the societal power is held by men as a class, and is used to oppress women as a class.
This is an interesting theory, but does not hold up to any real scrutiny or critical thinking.
For the purposes of quick dismantling, I will split societal power into four areas, or spheres.
The spheres are social, political, economic, and educational. The group which controls the majority of these spheres is the group with the power. Feminists claim that the group with control is men. Let’s see how that holds up to some critical thinking. Hint: Not well.
First, Educational. In the educational sphere it is clear that women have the power. They are more likely to be in education, less likely to drop out of education, more likely to get degrees and finish their education, more likely to teach, and more likely to be on decision-making boards concerning education.
Verdict: Females have the power.
Second, Political. In the political sphere, women still have more power. Women are the majority of the electorate in the majority of states. In a democratic system, the will of the majority is the will that is enforced as law. Therefore, women as a class have more political power than men as a class. Just because women don’t choose to use this power to elect other women does not mean they do not have the power. If every woman in America wanted a female president, there would be a female president. If every man in America wanted a male president, there would not be a male president. In the UK, where Parliamentary Sovereignty and a lack of a codified constitution allow any law to be made, even ones which contravene basic human rights, women could literally institute any law they wanted as long as they all agreed upon it.
Verdict: Females have the power.
Thirdly, moving onto the Economic sphere. Despite producing and being responsible for the existence of less than 50% of the US’ GDP (Gross Domestic Product), an estimated 63% of it is controlled by women. Yes, women control over half of the US’ GDP, despite not producing even half of it. That means that they control not only their own money but some of men’s money, too.
Verdict: Females have the power.
Finally the Social sphere. More difficult to quantify, but just as easy to understand. All throughout society there are obligations for men that place power in female hands. The obligation of chivalry, carrying with it protection, financial support, emotional support and submission to a female whim. The obligation of instigating a relationship, placing all risk of rejection on male shoulders. The obligation of trust, meaning that men feel forced to believe women in the face of all evidence. This, combined with the undeniable fact that issues affecting men are given less support than those affecting women, such as domestic abuse, rape, alimony or any number of other things, shows a lack of male power.
Verdict: Females have the power.
Now, the Social sphere is the only one which I can see being contested, as it cannot be factually quantified, but even if the social sphere were male controlled, that would still be 3 spheres under female control, a majority. Thus meaning: women would still have the majority of control in society.
So no, we don’t live in a patriarchy.
One final point would be that just because women have this power does not mean they all exercise it, as we can see clearly in the world. Just because women can vote women in, does not mean they do, for example. But power is not dependent on use, simply possibility of use. Even if women all sat in the home as housewives voting for men and never exercising any of these powers, they would still have the power.
Women in Education: http://collegestats.org/articles/2012/08/9-signs-we-have-a-boy-crisis/
Women and GDP: http://www.businessinsider.com/infographic-women-control-the-money-in-america-2012-2
Women and the Electorate: http://www.census.gov/prod/cen2010/briefs/c2010br-03.pdf
when will my reflection show
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so ig we really have regressed back to the more racist eras.
hi i’m the person in the picture. i realize this looks pretty bad but let me explain what is actually happening in the picture above. my friend who posted this took the picture as i was painting myself to cosplay the wendigo from hannibal.
here’s what the character from the show looks like (minus the flower crown)
and here’s a photo of the finished cosplay (the one in the middle)
i just wanted to make this clear because i can understand how the original photo can be misinterpreted.
i love to watch people on this website get up on their soapbox, just to be kicked the fuck off because they’re prematurely bitching about something.
thATS ALSO SOME FANTASTIC COSPLAY THO
Thanks to So_Streets_Ahead who posted this on r/MensRights.
You realize any feminist with a true understanding of the term would be equally outraged right?
Ok, so show it to me in a quote somewhere, a feminist being outraged at this.
Um. So I’m probably one of the few folks who doesn’t think this is adorable. At all.
I think it’s fucking scary how this little boy keep pushing himself on her after she CLEARLY doesn’t want to be bothered with his ass.
And the adult behind the camera doesn’t intervene at all because it’s ‘cute.’
And how analogous it is to when grown ass men don’t take fucking no for an answer, no matter how much we push and shove and say no.
This is not cute. This is an absolute disregard of this little girl’s boundaries.
In the very bottom left gif you can see he’s smiling/laughing. Like this is some kind of game.
I would bet money that the person filming this is laughing and encouraging him.
This is how we teach boys not to respect women’s spaces.
Yes, ALL OF THIS COMMENTARY. It’s so hard to believe how we encourage this disgusting behavior in babies now. What. The. Fuck.
Men and women are socialised from BIRTH. Men develop these habits from BIRTH and they are reinforced year after year after year until they reach adulthood.
It also teaches that little girl that adults will not ever come to her aid or defense, that she cannot trust grown-ups to care about or respect her boundaries, that she’s all alone in this and can only rely on herself. That’s some fucked up shit right there.
Bolded because I learned that a long time ago.
Okay, hold up.
You’re pyscho analyzing toddlers. Kids who cannot be beyond 2 and a half years at best with ideas of rape culture, responsibility and “boundaries”. These are children who do not even know how to control themselves enough to go the toilet properly and you want them to understand concepts of boundaries?
Like no, fuck your shit for enforcing these ideas on shit like this. That boy’s being a little annoying shit the way my 2 year old niece would be an annoying little shit by trying to hold my hand, or grabbing one of her playmates’ legs even when we tell her several times “No”. It’s a toddler’s mind that cannot fully comprehend the matter at hand, so when you go ahead and place such analysis on such innocent kids, you’re going to seriously fuck up the kids.
This is not about how that little girl won’t have adults never coming to her, the person who said that is so fucking stupid. Like what proof is that towards your statement? Do you have analysis of how this particular “grooming” of the toddlers is teaching the girl not to trust adults and not that grown ups don’t care? Like what kind of community do you even live in to make this sort of shit come out of such a gifset. These kids are being kids.
It could happen to boys with boys, girls with girls, and boys with girls. Toddlers have annoying habits. Anyone who has babysat enough times and had to take care of them would realise that at that particular age, children would be curious and would almost always completely ignore what others are saying to satisfy their curiosity even if it meant for the child to be pushed about again and again.
Honestly, fuck the fuck off if you think this shit is in anyway some demonstration of rape culture, sexist lack of respect of boundaries, or some other type of shit. I’m sick of Tumblr’s psychoanalysis of these things without taking into consideration that the reality of the matter is much more simpler than Tumblr makes it out to be.
Do not enforce your own problems onto innocent children and breed them to become fearful and paranoid as you are.
In which Flo is the best.
In another awkward and humorless moment in SNL history, they’ve decided to portray men’s rights activists as misogynists who can’t get laid and who have to resort to conning foreign women into coming to America in order to do so. In a skit that lasts just under 6 minutes I didn’t find one thing funny as I cringed though the one dimensional representation of the typical MRA that couldn’t be further from the truth.
It was very infuriating watching the ridiculous and incredibly misinformed feminist agenda injected skit because there’s never been a protest against Planned Parenthood or a clinic shut down because of MRAs. If they’ve ever argued about the wage gap it wasn’t because they thought women should be paid less but rather they should do equal work in order to paid equal to a man. And the wage gap has been debunked plenty of times, most notably by feminists themselves and by economist Thomas Sowell.
Men’s rights are often a running joke because men are treated as disposable and their suffering whether psychological, financial, or physical, is largely dismissed as irrelevant. Men are treated as if they don’t have feelings especially if they are white and straight and being so means that your argument, no matter how valid, will go ignored. Of course, men are ignored until they can’t take it anymore and act out, hurting themselves or others around them.
And let’s not kid ourselves here. When we discuss men’s rights what we are really discussing is the rights of boys who will grow up to become men. If they are not given the same support and care as girls are then it is likely they will grow up having social and emotional issues that will then be ignored as he is told to “just be a man” and “suck it up” causing him to eventually act out. Then when he does act out due to the pressure of constantly swallowing feelings and putting up with things no one should have to put up with he is then turned into a violent misogynist piece of shit and we never question what lead to this behavior. No man purely dislikes women just because. There are reasons for this and they are being ignored.
You often hear a lot of feminists claim they support human rights but then they turn around and deny that men’s rights are human rights. The idea that a man speaking up about the problems that he faces as an act against women’s rights or even a misogynistic attitude is absolutely absurd. Everyone has the right to address the disparities they face and to deny men the right to do so in the face of opposition is not only anti-human rights but a terrible message that is sent to boys. Right now feminists are telling boys that they don’t matter because they were born with a penis and in order to have any weight in this world that they should be more feminine and hate their gender. Sounds like child abuse to me.
As we see in the SNL skit, the MRA has been reduced to a one dimensional hate monger. Not only is the concept of men’s rights new but it is being opposed before it even gains any ground. Feminists have made it their goal to distort and destroy the movement for fear that it will take away attention from the feminist narrative of the inherently victimized female. In reality, MRAs didn’t care about feminists until feminists showed up in force to their meetings without even having any knowledge of what the meeting was about in order to oppress their freedom of speech. In short, feminists only have themselves to blame when this has become the face of their movement. The obnoxious protesting of peaceful MRA meetings is reminiscent of a time when blacks were fighting for their civil rights and when women were fighting for theirs. Human suffering is human suffering no matter what color or gender and the discussion of this suffering should not be hindered because of a perceived connotation that men’s rights somehow equals the hatred of women. It doesn’t.
You know, my first Tumblr blog was purely dedicated to punk bands and music but was interrupted by a group of feminists who attacked my character over a span of a couple weeks. I can bet that most users who operate an anti-feminist blog on Tumblr only decided to do so because they were attacked by a feminist user or group of feminist users for something they had posted that was a non-issue. It seems that feminists cannot make the connection between their actions and the fast rising anti-feminist sentiment.
Personally, I don’t identify with the MRA or any movement simply because movements lose sight of the individual. I don’t like being confined to the rules of an ideology and I certainly don’t like being misrepresented like this skit misrepresented men’s rights activists. So before anyone gets the idea that I’m an MRA, I’m not. My views are purely based on personal experience and research, not doctrine.
In the end, this SNL skit is unfunny, distorted, and serves as evidence of their disconnection with reality and the last nail in the coffin of Saturday Night Live as a comedy sketch show.
I am sick to death of these ridiculous posts running loose in this site with a picture of some idiot either blowing up a condom with water or putting a condom on a hand or a foot and then adding the text “if it fits this limb or stretches this wide it can fit him and he’s just trying to take advantage of you.”
First of all! Condoms all come in different sizes, much like clothing. If you’re a size 20 and you put on pants that are size 14 IT IS NOT GOING TO FIT and if it does fit I’m willing to bet anything you feel unbelievably uncomfortable.
Ladies, that is as close of an example as I can give so you have an idea of what wearing a condom that doesn’t fit feels like.
A condom that doesn’t fit has a high percentage of breaking, not to mention that your partner will have a hell of a bad time performing due to discomfort and worry over the condom breaking. There is no greater panic than finding out the condom broke while still inside.
How does it break? The friction between flesh and latex. The fact that the latex is being stretched beyond its capacity and is under the stress of friction for more than 25 minutes are all a condom needs to break.
Second of all, those posts I am referring to are spreading horrible rumors. Just because they stretch it doesn’t mean they’ll work. Condoms aren’t delicate but they aren’t made of unbreakable material. They are meant to fit human penises. Not your fucking hand, not your fucking foot and they sure as hell are not meant to be filled with water.
The images above were taken after I tried putting a condom that doesn’t fit my boyfriend on my hand. Obviously that damn thing broke.
Never ever spread ridiculous rumors like those. It doesn’t make you funny, or edgy, and it sure as hell won’t make you popular. It just makes you a complete and total dumbass.
Here are a few links to several sites with actual information about condoms:
WORD OF CAUTION:
You should always use condoms when having sex and just because that condom doesn’t fit it doesn’t mean you should go on ahead and have unprotected sex. If it doesn’t fit, leave it for another time when both of you are prepared and willing. Find a condom that fits and use it correctly. Find a reputable site with the information you need or talk to your doctor or healthcare provider or ask a sex ed teacher but for goodness’ sake do not buy into those ridiculous posts.
And as for the people making those posts we need you to stop spreading such bullshit and stop shaming people IMMEDIATELY!
thank you so much for this post this is a good post
It’s that simple. No ifs, no buts, no maybes. This is the only way to stop this from happening. Change begins with you. And ending cruelty towards animals begins at your plate.
And what of animals that are humanely raised?
This site, man.
Are people really this fucking dumb? I see this nonsense daily, and it happens with more regularity as the days progress. I’m sick of people feeling oppressed and then believing that it’s okay to fight that with their own prejudices.
Sick of all these fucking labels that do nothing but divide people even further. You aren’t some social crusader. You’re part of the problem.
And the sad thing is that you think you’re part of the solution.
MOTHERFUCKERS COULDN’T GET ON WONDER WOMEN’S LEVEL
Girls pose by a jail that recalls the witch trials of 1692 in Salem, Massachusetts. Photo taken in 1945.
I recently learned that the water in Salem was contaminated with the fungus from which LSD is derived and a legitimate theory for the whole thing is that everyone in the town was tripping balls
This might be the greatest thing ive ever seen on the internet
We did a whole massive thing on this in history. I believe the fungus in question is called Ergot and it’s terrifying. It makes your muscles spasm so when they had seizures that was the reason, not because they were possessed. One woman had to be strapped to her bed, she was seizing so bad. And, like ‘theybuildbuildings’ said, it had the same effects as LSD; as soon as you touch it, let alone consume it, it messes with your entire system. The worst thing is, you practically always had a bad trip. Many complained about bugs crawling under their skin or monsters emerging from the shadows to scratch and bite at them until they were screaming. It was a horrendous thing and the worst part is, Ergot is still around. It grows on crops and, if your wheat isn’t properly treated, it can be eaten and you’ll most likely experience the same as the women of Salem.
god i love history
- Ergotism was well known by the time of the trials, the symptoms probably would have been identified. It was considered a terrifying disease for over a thousand years, known as “holy fire” or “St. Andrew’s Fire”. The most telling sign of ergotism, gangrene, wasn’t even present. It is uncommon for ergotism to be marked solely by convulsions.
- Ergotism didn’t poison the water supply. If it had been a threat to the town it would have been through consumption of rye.
- You’re underestimating the importance of William Griggs, the town doctor who diagnosed the so-called witchcraft. It wasn’t until after he diagnosed Betty that the accusations and claims from the girls started.
- The girls were described as “hale and hearthy” outside of court. Ergotism wasn’t called “the holy fire” because it was mild. It was awful, with rates of fatality between 10-40%. Little was mentioned of vomiting, gastrointestinal issues, skin color change, chills, headaches…. The basic symptoms.
To disregard the unbelievable affect of class and gender on the Puritans is shocking. A wild fungus may seem more interesting, but it disregards prejudice, religion bases psychosis, misogyny, and hate for outsiders that permeated Salem.
Everyone accused was a social pariah. The only exceptions to this are the people who questioned the trials. This is not by accident. Sarah Good was a beggar, Giles Corey was generally distrusted and had previously been accused of murder, Tituba was a black woman who spoke of omens and evil, Martha Carrier had been accused of witchcraft only two years prior and had inherited wealth despite patriarchal norms, Sarah Osbourne was challenging property laws and social norms, Margaret Scott was a poor widow who had been disliked for as long as 20 years, and so on and so on. They struck out against people their families were suspicious of.
These little girls were under tremendous stress. They could celebrate no holidays, express no strong emotions, no dancing or music, no toys, suffered rampant abuse espoused as discipline, and lived under the constant overwhelming fear of Hell. The older generation at that time was bemoaning the youths’ lack of piety and dedication to Christ. In other words, the girls were miserable and well aware that according to their parents only Hell awaited their misbehavior. They were trying to survive in an adult world not meant, or willing to, support the needs of children. To display anger, fear, or sorrow was a personal weakness. But to do so when coerced by the devil was perfectly acceptable. So they acted out, became hysterical. And claimed the devil was behind it all.
That may not be as exciting as the, “but they ate this spore, right? and it was like a bad trip on LSD!” but it’s almost certainly correct.