So, I’ve been thinking quite a bit about this post.
And I’ve come to a conclusion.
Whoever first posted and most of those who re-blogged it were probably not heterosexual and hetero-romantic, and the former exaggerated a probable hypothetical situation to seem completely right, and in some way, is also rather close minded to the preference of others.
Let me explain.
First of all, I do recognize the other party (the “friend”, though I don’t know why it’s mentioned as “friend”) was the usual, close-minded anti-gay person. And that’s probably why they reacted so badly to being inquired if they boyfriend would be a woman - because she was already closed off to even accepting homosexuality that did not involve her. But, asides that, let’s change the situation and assume that it’s a completely ‘normal’, heterosexual and hetero-romantic girl. According to the following rant, it would be pretty much normal for her to react like this, or similarly, at least.
So, let me explain before you flip your shit.
I sometimes find that the LGTB community, at times, seem to think that they are the most open-minded and accepting people just because they are gay/lesbian/bi-sexual, etc. But when they criticize others for something like this, they are being almost as close minded and discriminating as the ones that discriminate them.
Alright, listen up. While to the LGTB community / a gay/bi individual, it could be much more likely to be easy to accept that your significant other had changed sexes/genders (especially to bisexuals), it is not so easy for heterosexuals and hetero-romantics. Even in this situation, assuming the person inquiring their female friend was a gay/bi female, for example, it would be much easier to them to imagine that someone they were in love with became a female, as they could most likely be bi-romantic.
You know what, okay, imagine that you’re bisexual and bi-romantic. You are just naturally able to have a romantic and sexual attraction for someone of both genders. It’s how you were born, it’s how you are - it’s not a choice. And you’re probably perfectly alright with your significant other to be of another sex and gender. Because you are able to be attracted to that person regardless of their gender and sex, and whatever genitals they may have, you’re alright with it.
Now imagine that you are not like that. Imagine that you’re a heterosexual and hetero-romantic. That you are literally only able to have any attraction, sexually and romantic, to someone of the opposite sex/gender. Or that you’re only a homosexual and homo-romantic. You are only able to be attracted, sexually or romantically, to a person of the same gender/sex. Just think about that really hard.
Those people, hetero/homosexuals and hetero/homo-romantics are simply not able to be attracted to someone of the same/opposite (hetero/homo, respectively) sex/gender. It just isn’t in them. They were just born that way, it isn’t a choice. They can’t choose to suddenly love/want to fuck someone of the sex/gender they are not attracted to. It doesn’t work like that, and the LGTB community should know that the best.
Now imagine you are like that. And if, overnight, your loved one changed into the sex/gender that you simply just cannot be attracted to, romantically or sexually.
It would be a pretty huge shock, wouldn’t it? Things would change immensely, wouldn’t they? Maybe there would be a change you would find it a bit disgusting, to be honest, no? Just think about it.
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There is no such thing as “their [insert genitals here] disappeared and suddenly he has [insert ‘opposite’ genitals here’] and nothing has changed in them, they’re still the same person you know” to them.
Or, rather, they might be same person, but they just aren’t able to have the same level of attraction to their significant other. It isn’t just WOOP GENITALS GO OUT OTHER GENITALS COME IN DOESN’T MATTER. They aren’t pansexuals. They aren’t bi. And you can’t honestly expect the all-powerful-love-of-legends-and-no-boundaries to burst out of the other person and them still to love the one who changed sex. It just doesn’t work like that. Not to mention that, really, in a lot of smalls ways, the person can change just because their body is different. Or if it included a gender change.
And trying to reach out more to the gay community: homosexuals and homo-romantics (those who really cannot be attracted in either way to their opposite sex, really can’t), imagine, then, trying to be in/keep an intimate romantic and sexual relationship with a guy (lesbians)/ girl (male homosexuals). …You just don’t picture that happening, do you? It just isn’t right to you. You just can’t, right?
Well, it’s the damn fucking same to heterosexuals and hetero-romantics.
You can’t force them to still be in love and attracted to someone whose body disgusts them were they in such an intimate level, and which they just couldn’t be affectionately/romantically attracted to the possible change of personality that may come with gender change.
It doesn’t work like that, and the gay community should know this best.
I don’t know what else to say other than to stress all of this more. I’d probably go around in circles if I continue for too long, but I hope you understand all of this shit by now.
I’m heterosexual. I’m hetero-romantic. And to be fucking real and honest with you, if any girl that I’ve ever been romantically and sexually attracted to was originally male/changed sex/gender, I simply would not be able to maintain those feelings, sexually or romantically. They would dissipate. It’s just how it is for me. It’s how I was born.
Just because if someone’s significant other changed to the sex/gender they are not naturally attracted to, sexually or romantically, and if they could not love them/be attracted to them any more, it doesn’t mean they only loved their genitals.
If you seriously think that, well, you need to re-think that until you don’t, because you don’t know if that would happen if you were in their place, because it most likely fucking would. And it would be seriously hypocritical of pretty much everyone. Not to mention you have fucking nothing to do with other people’s private and intimate relationships.
So, yeah. That’s out of my system. Hope you enjoyed this goddamn rant. If you have any other comments or opinions, fucking have at it.